How Can Human Design Help My family?

As a certified Family Coach, I see the benefit of using Human Design in my family, but a few people have questioned its validity and purpose. Let me give you a few examples.

First, for many years my older son would get this tone in his voice and have this attitude about life that left me feeling hurt and confused. I say hurt because I could see in him his beautiful soul, but he was saying some bitter and hurtful things. Now that I have had my training, it makes sense, and this bitterness has greatly decreased. His HD type is a projector. Projectors see the potential and the beauty in people and things. They can be very insightful and knowledgeable beyond their years. However, if they let their vision of what can be become bitter because what they see is not what they think it should be, then things can take a turn. Also, if he doesn't get enough rest, he can turn bitter.

Knowing this about him, I have been able to work with him on not letting the difference between what he sees and what is get to him. I also often invite his input on things because I know that is what he needs.

Before I knew about HD, I often would scold him for acting that way. I also had expectations of him that drained his energy and made him worse instead of better.

My second example comes from my younger son, who has had some issues of his own. From a very young age, he would do (or attempt to do) what he wanted when he wanted. He was often called selfish.

He isn't selfish. It's just part of his design. His motivation in his chart is to "do what you want when you want and because you want, just like that. You go about your business and don't care what happens around you." Now this doesn't mean we let him do this all the time, but this does explain why it has always been an issue.

We let him when it is appropriate and are working with him to realize that we can't always do this. He also has gate 5 in his design Earth, so he needs predictability and routine. Gate 5 is the gate of Consistency, which is about staying consistent with healthy habits and choices that bring you closer to your goals, even when it feels tough. When his routine is disturbed, it causes issues. If we know the routine is going to be disturbed, talking to him in advance has helped.

These are just two examples of how utilizing my training has helped my family. If you are interested in how Human Design can help your family, email me at famhdcbyay@gmail.com or follow me on Instagram, Facebook, and Bluesky.